Monday, February 5, 2018

on my brain feb 2018

Though 2018 has only been rocking and rolling for a month, I truly feel like a different person. 

There are a few reasons for this, one of those being I completely changed my relationship with food. My New Years Resolution was to lose 50 pounds before leaving to Japan in May. I have talked before about my issue with goals, but I am not a goal oriented person whatsoever. I have no self control nor do I feel like I owe myself anything, so when it comes down to doing something for myself I won't do it, ever. I have been on countless "diets" and changing the way I eat since I started gaining weight in junior high. It never stuck. There's a reason my Pinterest board says "the two weeks a year I pretend to be healthy." So yeah, it's been an endless cycle of trying something, it not sticking, me feeling bad.

 Except this time, it has stuck. I want to write a whole blog post about this, but it really took accepting and loving my body even though I was the heaviest I had ever been to start to feel that I owed it to myself to treat my body better. I'll go into more detail when I have these thoughts totally hashed out in my head, but I have lost about 17 pounds in four weeks and I don't see myself ever eating how I used to eat. So for that, I feel totally different as a person.

Next thing, we have been majorly decluttering at our house. Selling or donating a ton of what we have held on to over the years. At the end of December I took four ginormous boxes full of clothes to D.I, and then I just got rid of another H U G E box. This has caused me to do some thinking. 
I love a good deal, I love clothes, and I think I may be a shopaholic in a serious way, not a cute funny one. I get quite the rush and satisfaction from buying things, so I buy buy buy especially when things are cheap because then I can justify the purchase. It's not the spending money that has started to bother me, it's the buying and then not wearing. I only have a handful of things in my closet that I wear consistently, and those are things I have seriously had since high school, maybe early college. I have a cardigan and a sweater from Cents of Style that I want to wear daily. But aside from those things, I am buying so many things that I like at the store but don't wear past one time. For the first time I am really seeing the benefit in investing in more expensive things and having a smaller wardrobe. However, my current predicament is that I genuinely don't know what I like to wear until I buy it, wear it, and either love it or do not. So how do I figure out what to invest in if I don't know what I like? It seems unrealistic to buy expensive clothes and then hate them after wearing them a few times just like I do with the cheap clothes I buy. A few months ago I started making a rule that if I can't think of five different ways to wear something, I'm not getting it. Still, some things just aren't flattering once you have worn them all day, they get stretched out and weird and I hate wearing them. Or I will wear something all day and realize it's not practical. Am I making sense? I feel like this is such a weird problem to have, so if you have any advice I would really appreciate it!
All that being said, this acceptance of buying less crap feels like a big change for me. 

Another thing that has made me feel quite different is I decided to be done blogging, which is strange because I'm currently writing a blog post. What I mean is, I'm done trying to make blogging my side hustle. I never really put 100% into trying to accomplish this, but it was something I was constantly feeling guilty about. I would post a picture that wasn't aligned with my feed and I would feel tremendous guilt. I would stare at the number of instagram followers and just self doubt about why that number wouldn't go up. I would agree to campaigns (all with companies I love and believe in, I can only think of one company I have worked with that I wish I hadn't, cough cough smile brilliant) and then wait until the last second deadline to shoot and write, it was just a huge additional stress and weight on my shoulders. 
If you haven't been following along on social media lately, there has been a big hullabaloo about bloggers not being authentic and everyone unfollowing people like crazy and just general drama. During this whole thing, I realized I am just not passionate about the issue whatsoever and that's when I knew I was done. So I changed my instagram name, unfollowed a lot of people that weren't bringing me joy, denied a bunch of collaborations that were pending, finished up the ones that were too late to cancel, and I feel so damn good. I don't know that it ever occurred to me until a few weeks ago that I could just blog without accepting sponsorship or worry about numbers, which is how I was blogging since the MYSPACE days until a few years ago anyway! I truly feel SO free which I realize is very dumb but that's okay. I am happy to be back here, writing (one of my loves that I forgot about, or got lost with), when I can and about what I want. I may still do a collab here and there, I'm still really passionate about helping size friendly brands wherever I can. I just am feeling very happy to find a balance in all of this.


Lastly, we are doing some really adult things right now (not a baby and I'm grumpy I have to preface that all the time, let my uterus and I live!!) and while I don't want to jinx it, it's probably pretty easy to put the pieces together if you've been following along on social media for any amount of time. 

So HELLO 2018, new year new me? That saying makes me barf, but here we are! 

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Monday, January 1, 2018

a woman must have money and a room of her own

(Okay, Virginia Woolf tortured me throughout my English major career, however this quote is for sure something I can be on board with.)
links for everything below
We live in a basement apartment. It's very nice, but it's small. There is no real storage to speak of. Our second bedroom became our "catch all" room where anything we didn't know what to do with was thrown in this room and forgotten about. It is also where my closet is because our bedroom one is too small. Lastly in this room is my desk where I grade and get ready. It was a room that gave me extreme anxiety because it was just a mess. It made me feel like we needed to move because we just can't fit in this house. I took to Snapchat one day complaining about this room and asking for help. It was the nip in the butt that I needed to go through every inch of the room and organize it. We ended up throwing out or donating seven garbage bags worth just from this room alone. After we majorly simplified, I reorganized the whole space. Although it still functions as a storage room to some degree, everything has a place. I bought bins for our craft supplies, board games, etc. I organized my shoes that were previously everywhere, we cleaned out and simplified our bookshelves (bookshelves are inherently cluttered and I hate them) and the room feels a lot more intentional.
Coincidentally, this happened the same time that Mark was asking what I wanted for Christmas. I realized the $20 Ikea desk and folding chair that I had was just not cutting it for the amount of hours I spend at my desk. So I asked for a better Ikea desk, with drawers for storage. I asked for some other types of storage for my hair stuff from my in-laws and I used some Christmas money to buy my modern pink velvet chair that I love.
While the whole room isn't perfect I love my corner and it's a huge improvement from before!
This nail polish organizer is really fun!

This gives me motivation to buy more lipsticks, probably the last thing I need haha
Judy Hopps' temporary home until all my feminist funkos come in and I start a shelf. I have Leslie Knope, Rey, Princess Leia, Mulan, Wonder Woman, etc. Also, not my baby. Haha!

The reality is that unless you have parents who are overly helpful, you will probably rent at some point in your life. I have never lived in an apartment where it was "chill" to paint the walls or do whatever, so we have had to work with what we have. There is a lack of that on Pinterest or Instagram because it's not always pretty. People only want to see new houses with all white everything and that just isn't going to be us for a while. I decided it was important to me to be happy in our space now instead of having everything be "when we get a house..." and even though somethings are still like that for sure, at least I have this little room!
lipgloss organizer//acrylic drawer set, smaller one here///necklace holder, sold out, similar here///alex ikea desk///chair, single, double///hair accessory organizer///judy hopps funko pop///nail polish organizer///gold mirror///society 6 print///brush holder (still on my list to buy)
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Sunday, December 31, 2017

ebates: free cash back shopping (not sponsored)

If you are reading this on your phone, stop! You have to sign up from a desktop computer.
A few weeks ago I posted on insta story that I had purchased something online and my cash back from ebates had come through minutes later. I have never had so many DMs in my life asking what ebates is, is it free, what is the catch, etc. So I did a little insta story of what it was and how to sign up, then I got more DMs that they missed my insta story and so here I am, spreading the gospel of ebates!
If you sign up using my link, you get $10 after your first purchase. Click here.  What is ebates and how do they do it?
Ebates is a cash back shopping tool. NOT A CREDIT CARD. I REPEAT, NOT A CREDIT CARD. Free to use! No fee! yay! When you online shop (and in store, I will get to that later) you click on a ebates affiliate link that you install in your browser bar. When you make a purchase, ebates gets a certain percentage commission. Instead of keeping the entire commission (this is how many bloggers make money) they split it with you! Pretty smart! 
For example, I recently bought a winter coat from Columbia. It was $49.99 and I got $2.50 back from  ebates. It isn't much, but I use ebates on every single purchase I make online, so it adds up. Right now I have $60 waiting to cash out. 

Okay, how do I get it?
1. Click on this link and after your first purchase it will give you $10! 
2. Sign up using that link. If it asks for my email, it's rileyjohanni@gmail.com
3. After signing up, open up google chrome and go to their webstore (you can click here or I just google it)
4. On the left hand side it says "search the webstore" type in ebates.
5. It will be the first result. There is a blue ADD TO CHROME button. Click that and it will download. 
6. It will pop up in your chrome bar.




Okay, how do I use it?
When you go to a website, a popup will come up saying "active ___% back" all you have to do is click on it and you're done. 
After you make a purchase, it can take minutes like the purchase I described above or a few weeks to get your cash back. Usually mine is a day or two. These amounts accumulate and then every three months ebates sends you a "big fat check" aka they just deposit money into my PayPal. 



Coupon codes and Ebates
The other reason I really like ebates is it finds coupon codes for you. Instead of googling "ulta coupon code" ebates finds them for you. After you activate your cash back and you go to check out, sometimes (not always, but most of the time) a little button comes up that says "APPLY COUPONS"
Just click that and it automatically puts coupon codes in and sticks with the best one. It saves you money and gives you cash back! 

Ebates website
I look at ebates website daily because they have different stores with double cash back. For example, right now Nike is 10% cash back instead of the usual 1.5%, so if I have had my eye on some shoes it would be a good time to get them! 

In store cash back
You can hook your credit cards/debit cards up to the ebates app and anytime you purchase something that the offer in store cash back on, you get cash back. I know people who use this and some who don't like the idea of it, but I just signed up for it so I will let you know. Again, it's free. 

Other tips!
-We use ebates anytime we book travel. For example, expedia is up to 10% cash back. When we booked our big east coast trip, we got 7% cash back. 
-We just purchased a big expensive desk from Ikea. Instead of just going to the store to buy it, buy it online, use ebates for cash back, and pick it up at the store. 
-When you google something, look for the ebates cash back signal and only buy from stores that are compatible with ebates if you can! See example below of when I searched "pink coat"
-Again, check the website every so often and see if any stores you like are doing double cash back
-Use my code to sign up and you will get $10 after your first purchase. 

Let me know if you have any questions, I love saving people money! 
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2017 wrap up//2018 word of the year

Whole outfit via Posey and Pence! One of my favorite companies to model for because the owner's house is BEAUTIFUL and they have a great plus size collection! There is a red dress that I really love on there.
2017 was really great, at least personally! As far as our political climate hanging by a thread, not so much. However in a way I am grateful for that because it has gotten me a lot more active and involved in the government, just as a citizen should be.
Okay, 2017. Mark got an amazing job that we are grateful for every day. I kept on keeping on at my job and explored some other opportunities of things I could do with my career, although I will be in the classroom for a while. I finally started taking care of my anxiety through a therapist I really click with (thank youuuu amazing insurance) and that has been its own roller coaster but it's been great to finally feel like I'm in control of something that has been driving me all my life. We were so lucky and worked hard to be able to travel almost every month.  We also started saving for a house this year, which is big for us. Most importantly, we watched about 150 movies this year. Haha!
As I think about where we are now, we are kind of in between a lot of things. I know that I probably won't be in the classroom forever, we hopefully won't live in this basement apartment forever, plus a lot of other things that won't come for a longer while like kids, etc. It's a weird time but I'm happy to be here because life truly is so good, very minimal bad days and we are just lucky for that because that hasn't always been the case.
I have heard "word of the year" floating around the blogosphere for many years and I didn't really "get it" until this year. I just felt like the same word kept popping in my head as I think about this year so I decided to make it "official" whatever that really means.
My word for 2018 is patience. 
I am probably the least patient person. I don't really know what it means to wait for things. I'm pretty impulsive in general and deal with the consequences later, for example I buy and return a lot of things. However, this year will require a lot of patience as we make sacrifices for long term goals. I want to be able to plan and be successful long term, so I'm going to really try to be patient this year and keep in mind all of the cool things that will come if I use this year not to be so impulsive. I'm not a goal oriented person whatsoever, but I hope that I can be patient this year that achieving some of our goals will not and can not be immediate. 
I'm really excited for 2018, I'm super optimistic about it and I can't wait! 
Okay, here is my year highlight reel. I have done this so many years now I can't even count. Although I just blocked my old blogs from the public eye, the ones that are public are 2013, 2014, 2015, and apparently I had an attitude last year and didn't do one which is sad for me. They are fun to look back on!
January
Went to a work conference that was very eye opening for my future career!
February
Went to St. George for the weekend!
Mark got a JOB! Like a career job!
March
Literally nothing cool happens in March because I'm in the midst of Mock Trial season at school. 
April
Went to San Francisco with some work friends!

May
Celebrated three years of marriage and Mark's birthday! 
June
Went to D.C, New York, Boston and San Antonio!


July
Went to St. George and San Diego!
August
Started my 4th year teaching and turned 26! Also had a somewhat traumatic life event which led me to start therapy, which I'm grateful for.

September
Went to L.A! 
October
Went to Vegas!
My niece was born!
November
Went to Europe!
December
Celebrated Christmas!



Bring on 2018!
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Friday, December 29, 2017

Christmas 2017


I REALLY SUCKED AT TAKING PICTURES IN 2017!
New Years Resolution: DOCUMENT.
Okay, moving on.
Christmas.
It didn't totally feel like Christmas, mainly because I do not enjoy a lot of Christmas traditions that mots people do. I don't like doing Gingerbread houses because they are messy, gross and fall apart. I don't like going to see lights because it's cold and I hate cold. We don't do Christmas PJs because I have so many sweats/leggings/whatever I don't need them at all and they would probably just get donated to DI really quickly. Anyway, so I just don't know how to make it feel Christmas-y! 
We have a friend party that helps, I got new tree decor this year which also helps. I put a tree in my classroom which the students loved, so I will for sure do that again. We watched a lot of Christmas movies and I always love that.
I was feeling very lucky that this year Christmas Eve came on a Sunday, which meant that my in-laws moved their traditional sushi dinner to Saturday. So instead of leaving before the check came at sushi to make it to my family party, we were able to enjoy sushi, play games and hang out afterwards and have a very calm evening with people we love! Then on Christmas Eve we were able to do the same thing with my family without coming a few hours late. It was just the perfect situation! 
We woke up on Christmas morning and opened our presents, just Mark and I! He got me a desk for my new "beauty room" and I got him a bunch of cooking stuff and some stuff for his "nerd shelf"
We spent Christmas morning at my parent's house and then went to my in-laws for dinner and games. It was a really great Christmas, probably my favorite since I have been married, despite it not totally feeling like "Christmas"
So grateful!
Mark took a picture of me making funeral potatoes for our family party, it doesn't come off super well in the picture but the kitchen was a DISASTER.

Thanks to Biscotts Utah for delivering this cake to my door! It was so yummy even though I crushed it taking it out of the box!


 I did a breakout box with my older nieces and nephews at the Christmas party, basically like an escape room but instead of a room they try to open a box with several locks. They loved it!


My baby niece totally has my heart! She is so cute!


Mark and I brought a delicious charcuterie plate to Christmas dinner!


I realized we got 0 pictures of us at any point during the Christmas season so here is our cute before bed selfie...hahah!


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Wednesday, December 27, 2017

europe: paris day three



Okay, I am forcing myself to finish this Europe series! I should have written these within a few days of getting back, but it was such a whirlwind after we got home that it didn't happen, so now I am trying to make it up!
Our third day in Paris was going to be spent at Versailles! I know a decent amount about Versailles so I was excited to go. Getting there was probably the most stressful part of traveling. We were so lost and it was the only time we couldn't find someone that spoke English. Our method of figuring out how to get there was basically to pick a random train of people that kind of looked touristy and luckily it turned out to be the right one. It was so stressful! However we finally got there. I always imagined that Versailles would be out in the middle of no where but it really isn't, at least currently. There is a very cute little town that you walk through to get from the train to Versailles. There were so many people just going about their normal day, like a few little girls scootering to school with their backpacks on. I was so wanting to tap them on the shoulder and be like, "little ones! You live in France! Like next to Versailles! How amazing is that??" but I didn't because I'm pretty sane generally.
So anyway, we made it to Versailles and I wish we would have gotten there much earlier because we could have spent so much longer there! The palace itself didn't take much time because over half of it was closed for renovation which I was very disappointed about, but oh well. The gardens are what you could spend forever in! It was the one time during our trip that I wished we had gone when it was warmer because you could hang in the gardens forever. We actually ended up renting a golf cart because the gardens are so big. It was $35 euro for an hour which we thought was awesome, but we didn't take into consideration how slow the golf cart would be, it took us like 30 minutes to "drive" to the summer house we wanted to see, so we had to hustle in the tour so we could get the cart back.

I've never wanted to be royalty so badly as I did while touring Versailles. Everything was so extravagant and amazing, even the summer houses that they stayed at just to get away from the hustle and bustle of the castle. It was huge! The palace and grounds are so beautiful! On the backside of the palace there is just total wilderness, what I expected there to be all around. So pretty.  It was a highlight of the trip, everyone should go to Versailles!

We got back to Paris much more smoothly and we tried to go several places for dinner, the restaurants are so tiny that they are packed quickly so we went to four or five places before we could find somewhere to eat! We scarfed on a charcuterie plate and got home to get ready for our early train the next morning.
Or so we thought.
We got to the train station an hour before our scheduled train. About five minutes before we were supposed to leave, we still hadn't been assigned a train, we found out our train was delayed an hour and a half. I was not okay at this point, I won't really pretend I was. My anxiety totally got the best of me. It was freezing cold in the station since it's just basically a hanger, there were absolutely no chairs or anywhere to sit down, it's the biggest or busiest train station in the world apparently, and this was the only place where the gypsies were bugging us. I had read about people asking you to sign a survey and then pick-pocketing you, and sure enough this weird acting person came and asked us to take a survey. This gypsy also dropped a baggie full of something behind one of the vending machines and I was sure it was a bomb. I was so freaking on edge and just crying. We finally went into a restaurant just to get warm and not be bugged for a while. We rushed in there because even with the delay, our train was coming soon. Our sweet waitress was so fast in getting our food out to us. We rushed out of the restaurant and found out our train was delayed another two hours. I was so upset because if we had known that we wouldn't have rushed out of the restaurant and would have been able to stay in the warmth and not be bothered. We ended up sitting against the wall of the restaurant and I tried to lose myself in my book. Time went by faster and no one really bothered us when we were sitting and looked busy. While we were sitting there a guy got robbed in the restaurant we were in so I guess it was good we didn't stay? Haha I don't know.
Our train finally arrived and we were on our way.
Also, there was a American guy on our train and he was being SO RUDE and I realized no wonder people hate Americans. 


like the temple doorknob wedding pictures except not haha








the hall of mirrors was supposed to blow me away but I thought it wasn't the most impressive room






backyard of the queen's summer house

the king's "summer house" so big!




casual chapel

I PRESENT TO YOU: A DOG WALKING A DOG! You can see the two sets of dogs ahead of the dog walker, there was a "lead dog" that was literally walking the other dog, they were connected with a leash! Is this a thing everywhere? Mark and I were flippin.     

We got back to Amsterdam much later than we wanted to due to the delay, so we basically lost a whole day in Amsterdam. I was so sad, there is still so much we didn't do there. That's okay though because now we have an excuse to go back! We stayed a little further from the main Amsterdam area and I would 1,0000% recommend our hotel, the Westcord Fashion Hotel in Amsterdam. It was the nicest hotel I have stayed in ANYWHERE. I have never been in such a bathtub. It also was only two stops away from the main part of Amsterdam, so if you are headed there soon I would totally stay there. We had our favorite meal of the trip which was Indonesian food because apparently if you can't go to Indonesia then you go to Amsterdam. It also reaffirmed we just like Asian flavors more. I took the most luxurious bath ever and we got a few hours of sleep before starting 24 hours of travel.
We had a flight from Amsterdam to Madrid, that went super smoothly. From Madrid we had to get on a flight to Chicago. I was really worried about this connection because we only had an hour. The lady at the airline said "max connecting time in Europe is 45 minutes, don't worry about it" well that was a huge lie. I think Madrid is on high security alert right now because after having this experience people have said that it isn't normally like this. 
Okay, so, we get off our flight from Amsterdam and we find out that our flight is in literally the furthest terminal away. So we are sprinting through the airport and we get almost to that terminal. Mark was like "oh my gosh, we have 20 minutes till boarding, we are totally gonna make it!" so we slow down and are so happy, and then we turn the corner. 
There were about 3,000 people (no exaggeration) waiting to go through customs. Yep, you have to go through customs on a connecting flight. I was sure this was a mistake but nope. Everyone was miserable because it was taking forever, there was no organization, it was a million degrees. People kept asking to cut others so they could make their flight and they would say no, because everyone was going to miss their flight. People almost got in a fist fight. I definitely had some tears in that line!  We waited almost 45 minutes, got out about 25 minutes after our flight had taken off. I was sure that we had missed our flight. Mark looked at the screen and the flight before us said "boarding but our flight said "boarding closed." it seemed odd that the flight before ours would still be boarding but ours wouldn't be. So even though I was crying and had to pee LITERALLY SO BADLY, Mark made us run. We still had to run SO FAR after going through customs, it was about a 10 minute run and I promise, I almost took out a perfume saleslady who got in my way. WHY ARE THERE MALLS IN EVERY EUROPEAN AIRPORT!?!? We finally got to our gate and they said "Miami or Chicago?" and I said "Chicago!" and they said "Come on! We held the flight!" and you guys, I literally just started sobbing.
I have truly never cried of happiness until this moment. It wasn't just a cry, it was a full sob that sounded much worse since I was so out of breath. I was shaking so badly the lady couldn't even look at my passport, she had to take it from me. She gave me a big hug which I kind of needed. Mark looked over at me and I saw divorce in his eyes. Joking, haha, but he really was like "UM WHAT ARE YOU DOING!" I honestly don't know if it was my knee pain (I am pretty sure I re-tore my meniscus running through the airport, going to the doctor tomorrow), the fact that I thought I was going to pee my pants and still miss our flight, the fact that I would actually get to teach the next day (I have been so sick this year that I have had a sub way more than I want to admit) or just the kindness of the people but  I have never cried so hard in my life. We got on the plane, used the bathroom (YAY!) saw my bright red and tear streaked face in the mirror (SCARY!) and then the plane left a little bit later! It was one of the greatest things ever. The flight wasn't too bad, I actually was able to sleep and I watched the entirety of Riverdale season 1. We got to Chicago and were amazed at the level of organization in customs (haha!) and had a small layover before our last flight which I slept through completely. We got home about 10pm and both had to work the next day, I was pretty loopy and insane on that day. It took about a week to get back into the swing of things jetlag wise, but it was worth it! I for sure want to go back and do Paris and Amsterdam much more thoroughly. It was also great practice for Japan, we are going in May and it's a 13 hour flight and we will be there for almost three weeks, so it was good to test run international travel. I'm really grateful for Mark for being so patient with me, I am not a peach to travel with. 
I'm ready to go get some more stamps in my passport!

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