Monday, March 9, 2015

good for her, not for me.

As soon as we moved back to Utah in August I put Yes Please by Amy Poehler on hold at my library and then life got crazy and I forgot. 
A few weeks ago I got a notification that Yes Please was available for me to pick up. It was a nice lil surprise! I started reading it and not gonna lie, the chapters are here and there for me. Some chapters I loved and some I was doing the thing I do--skip over bunches of words at a time---to try to get through. 
One lesson did stand out to me, though, was when Poehler said that our mentality about every little thing in life should be "Good for her, not for me"

Good for her, not for me.

I remembered this as I got invited to an astounding 7 MLM parties on facebook this week.
DoTerra oils may be a lifesaver for a lot of people, but i'm not there yet. Good for her, not for me.

I remembered this when another teacher was talking about quitting her job this year to be a stay at home mom.
I really wish I could be a STAHM but I just know it would kill me slowly. I really think it's the better option for kids, but I just can't. So really, good for her, not for me.

I remembered as the girl in front of me at McDonalds ordered the fish sandwich, man.
The fish sandwich at McDonalds creeps me out. I'll take the chicken sandwich, thanks. Good for her, not for me.

Good for her, not for me. It sounds like it could be sarcastic or even an insult, but Poehler made it sound so genuine and matter-of-fact. Just like "Hey, we're two different people so what works for us is also going to be different." It was pretty sweet. I can't get it out of my head. 

I spend my entire day telling kids to be nice to each other and that the world is already too mean to have another mean comment added. So now it's probably time to practice what I preach with a "good for her, not for me" mentality. 

Even though it was hard for me to get through some parts of the book, I definitely recommend!

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10 comments:

  1. Oh my gosh, I could have written this post. I felt the same way about the book, and good for her, not for me was my favorite message! there's no need to defend yourself or worry about hurting anyone's feelings. We can all have our own opinions and live in harmony!

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    1. Right??? I have felt so peaceful since learning this new knowledge. Amazzzzing.

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  2. I love this. I haven't read her book yet, so I'm glad you shared this here! Such a good, healthy mentality to have. Also did you letter that? It looks killer.

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    1. You should! There were so many other amazing lessons in her book. Gosh I wish I had that good of handwriting. I found it on tumblr!

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  3. this is next on my list! i'm excited to read it. those comedians, they always have such great life lessons. haha. have you read tina fey's book yet? she also has a life changing line that says something like, "it's extremely arrogant to assume that just because you don't like something, it's entirely ungood". which seems like kind of the same idea here. different people like different things. just cause some guy didn't like women in comedy didn't mean tina fey isn't awesome! anyway. ranty, but you know what i mean haha. read tina fey's next! OMG LET'S DO A BOOK CLUB.

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  4. Ok this is my third comment because the other two haven't gone through. I said I want to do a whole month women empowerment readathon and knock through all these awesome books. Also PLEASE. can we do a friends IRL book club??? I would love the crap out of that

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  5. This is a cool message. I feel like I heard about it from someone else the other day, and now I'm hearing it here. Liked it then, like it now :) Also, book club! would be fun :)

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    1. Totally join the book club!!! Please please!

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  6. I love this!! I read mind's book and have yet to bring myself to this one. Ps I'm glad I found your blog via the utah friends IRL page, because it's adorable! :)

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    1. Yes! I'm so happy we follow each other!

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